Buying your first car...

This is my latest experience and I thought it might be helpful for the first timers who wish to buy "The Car".

Steps to be followed.

1) Search the web for your dream car.
2) Finalize on the models you want to choose
3) Go to the related showrooms and finalize on the make and model.
4) Find the dealers that are available in your city for that particular brand and model.
5) Go to your nearest dealer and make him believe that you are going to buy car from him and get all the discounts, prices of accessories etc.
6) Take the quotation and go to other dealer and get a better quote.
7) Finalize when you get a better deal.

Having said this, its not as easy as it seems. Many dealers bluff that they are giving you best price. But believe me you, you can get better price that that.

Also try to get discount on the price of the car first, then bargain for accessories. Don't fall for accessories in the first place. They will come cheap outside than in the showroom.

Also, ask for free registration and make it a point that he mentions it in the papers. They might later cheat you on registration fees etc.

Talk to people who own the car model that you want to buy. They can give you better information on mileage and problems.

Also the main important thing is, see your car model physically before you pay a single penny. Once you get the look and feel of how the car in the internet looks physically, then go ahead.

The above steps can help you find a best price. All the best.

You do not have to win always to WIN

Yes, I mean it my friends. You can lose sometimes and still can be a winner. You might win an argument, but you might have lost a friend at the same time.

You might remember the famous dialogue from the movie Baazigar "Kabhi Kabhi Kuch Jeetne Ke Liya Kuch Haar Na Parta Hai, Aur Haar Ke Jeetne Wale Ko Baazigar Kehte Hain" This is true.

We are in a world where relationships really matter and all we do is build relations and break them. This is a common, general, well known, relationship make and break process. An average individual will indulge in many relationships. In the process of building and breaking them he/she gets hurt or hurt the other parties. Below are some of the things to remember that can help us being better human beings.

 

You do not have to win every argument you are into.

Do not try to prove your smartness by hurting people that matter the most.

Many a times, you feel your point is not accepted. Just for a while, whole heartedly step into their shoes and give the discussion a thought. You might feel they might be correct or you might feel it’s no point in continuing the discussion. Either ways you win.

Silence is the best refute to an argument. Follow whenever appropriate… Most of the time, follow it.

Have a listening ear. That way, you would be less willing to drive your point home, without listening to others. And in-turn you can be a better judge of what to speak and what not to.

You don’t have to show your anger instead you can refrain from speaking further. This way, even if your are right, people doesn’t get hurt by the way you speak to them in anger.  

Be patient. Be calm. Be a good listener.

All the above can be followed only if you think that the person who you are dealing with is worth your time and effort. So choose carefully.

Cheating...

I happened to have a discussion with one of my colleague about love, marriage, life and it automatically got routed to the topic "Cheating". We were talking about how people end up in one night stands cheating their loved ones. My India culture and brought up made me say "Having physical relationship with other men/women is the worst thing any body can do". To my surprise what my friend said was "I can forgive my BF/Husband for a one night stand but not the emotional cheating". We discussed for a while but never could agree with her. I was confident that one night stands were the worst.
          Around two days after this happened, I have listened to a radio show on the topic "Cheating". Its a one hour program and I have listened to the entire topic. I have listened to the facilitators, people who cheated, people who still are cheating etc etc. What all I have got is the below.

There are two kinds of cheating the we humans specialize.

(i) Physical (I still believe that Phy is the worst type of cheating, that's the reason I have mentioned it first)
(ii) Emotional

Guys, in general, would end up in one night stands; mostly knowingly. The reasons for that would be:

Emotional distress
Stress in personal life
Stress in professional life
Fights with spouse
Revenge on spouse/friends
Entertainment
Drug/Alcohol influence

Women/Men both end up (knowingly/unknowingly) in emotional cheating. This is the dangerous kind (Yes, I agreed with my friend now). I will give you an example. I remember a person who unknowingly started sharing things with a colleague. He started discussing office grief with her, which extended into personal matters. Every time he had a fight at home, he found peace by sharing with her and bitching about his wife. After a year all the important things of his life, salary, bonus, planning for children, his happiness, his grief, his fears, his tears everything is being shared with her alone. He is no more interested in his wife. Anything important in his life, his friend is the one that came to his mind. Gradually his married life began to get destroyed. Ofcourse at the brink of it, due to his friend moving to states, he became normal again. But then it was a disaster. I was the witness of the whole episode and can never forget what the emotional relationship with her made him go through.

This kind of cheating starts slowly and unknowingly, you will end up liking the other person more that what you should do. This creates a rift in you life and things will change drastically. To avoid this, you need to know that, instead of bitching about your spouse, you need to address the problem. This will not only make your life easy but also make your spouses life easy. By addressing the problem, you not only solve it many times, but also come up with an agreeable solution which will work for both of you and will avoid problems.

Guys/Girls be aware before getting into this kind of stuff. You never know when you become attached and will have to pay a big price for it.   

Afterlife and Rebirth... Belief/Disbelief

The Hindu religion (ofcourse many other religions/dharmas too) tell us that we will have rebirth and afterlife scenarios. Let me start topic with what I think... I do not believe that we will be reborn.Yeah I proudly say that "I do not believe in any of this stuff". Let me tell you a little preface before letting you know what I think.

Humans, in their life time, are prone to do many sins. 50% of the sins are done knowingly and the remaining 50% wantedly :-P
When I was young I was made believe that we have to be truthful and should never commit any sins. We should not hurt others, cheat people, hurt people, animals, birds and infact trees and also not to disturb the serenity of nature. But as a child you would have asked WHY??? The reply, generally would be, coz god will punish you for your sins. And we believe that a super power will take care of all these things and punish us in after life.

My understanding of this over these years is, there is no such power as god or goddess. Its a belief created by our previous generations to maintain a peaceful environment. Let me explain you in detail about this...

What if, our government says there is no fine if you jump signals or no punishment if you commit crime? Dont you do these things??? Yes you will (Might not be everyone, but many of us will). You will break the signals, cheat people, commit crimes and what not. But to make this society a good place to live, our government has made a rule book for us and asked us to follow it. Else you will be punished. As you would be afraid of getting caught and being punished, you would avoid risk and will try to follow the rule book. That's the reason things are going a little fine and we are able to live in this society. Likewise, in olden days, there is no proper government or controlling bodies to take care of all these stuff. So to avoid hazzeles, our elders created a super power and forced us to believe that there is a super power called god and made us believe that he is watching you 24/7. So as he notices all the things we do and will punish us for our crimes, we avoided doing the so called mistakes/sins/crimes. Due to this people would never tried to harm others and the social life continued peacefully. This was the reason, that we had less quarrels and less crime rate in the olden days compared to what we have now.

Sin:

Anything that is not acceptable socially or the elders doesn't like and do not have explanation for it, they have termed those things as SINs. So we were always told that, if we commit sins, next birth would be disgusting... I was once told that based on your sins, your next birth would be decided. If your sins are more, you will reborn as a pig or a dog or a leech or something else. In the good olden days, the control system is not much strong due to lack of technology and administration. So to control all anti-social elements, the introduction of GOD, After birth, rebirth took place. People bought the idea and were afraid to commit sins. How I see this is, I don't care, as I wont get affected. What to know how??? Heres how...

Let us assume that there is really the concept of Afterlife and Rebirth. It implies that you were judged in hell or heaven and might got punished for your sins, which you never remembered or will know. So no point of worrying about Afterlife. And also if you believe in these, it implies that you were reborn many times. But as you dont remember what you had to go through in the previous birth, what difference does it make??? Did you ever see those animals??? They too dont remember anything about their previous birth and dont cry saying that "I was MJ and born as a monkey now. I was Saddam and now I am born like a pig in Pakistan". As long as you don't recall your previous, you won't fret. So even if you are born as a dog or a cat, you just live your life as a dog and die as a dog. So I say it doesn't really matter... 

As the people now started knowing about science and human birth secrets, they started realizing that there might not be any super power called God, and so they do not have to fear that someone is watching them all the time or about sins they are committing. Now they are ready to take risk and commit crimes whenever they are not monitored. Thats the reason for crime rate increase and the non-existent social activities started.

So as there is no God, there is not hell or heaven and no Afterlife or Rebirth. Feel free to commit the so called sins and be happy about it... Live life to the fullest... 

Raavan... God or Demon...

I happened to switch on my television after long time and what is see is "Raavan being worshiped as god". The first thing that came to my mind was "Crazy people". The argument of the Raavan followers is...

Raavan - Is a person form Scheduled Cast. He was deprived of his rights and he was killed by Rama, the upper cast culprit.

Rama - Is the person from upper caste and has conspired on Raavan and killed many of the rakshasas who also belong to SC.

What are the bases for these arguments?
Is there any truth in this?
How can people come up with these strange ideas?

My understanding of Ramayana as an Epic:

I am not going to tell what happened and whos who of Ramayana... But as a kid who listened to Ramayana from grand parents, heard Ramayana as a story, heard the preaching of the spiritual gurus, read books etc... all I know is, adhering to what is written in the Ramayana, will make you become strong as a individual and make you do the right things...

The great writer of all times Valmiki Maharsi, narrated Ramayana. With Brahma's boon, Valmiki Maharshi got to know not only what happened, but also what the characters thought at a particular situation. Valmiki in Ramayana, never told, Rama is a good person or Ravan is a bad person. All he depicted was the deeds of the person, due to which we categorized them as good or bad.

Ravana:

Ravana is a great scholar, warrior, ruler and what not... the only quality that was missing in him, that made him 'Rakshas' was the greed to forcefully get what he wanted. This quality alone made him abduct 'Sita' and thus killed by Lord Rama.

Rama:

The greatest of characteristics possessed by a human. Did I ever tell you that Lord Vishnu's incarnation is Rama. But he just quit all the powers possessed by gods and lived exactly like a human being. He was there in his mothers womb for 12 months. Gone through childhood, took pains to learn archery and other skills. Cried like a human being, lived like a human being. He showed humans the path to walk, the strength to stand for truth, the courage to fight for the weak and made the world know what to do and what not to do.

He followed Dharma, which inturn has helped him achieve success over the daemons. He showed us how to behave with elders, how to treat the young and helpless, how to behave with the same status people. He showed us the way to live.

So I request these Rakshasa's descendents to stop fretting over Ravan's birth and caste system and do something useful for the society instead.

Success with Procrastination…

Yes, I really meant what I said above… Want to know how??? Go on, read it…


Procrastination is putting off or delaying or deferring an action to a later time. Now how do you think I can justify putting off things and success at the same time. All we have learnt is that success comes when we work hard and act on things without postponing them. Let me tell you, putting off things will actually help in our way to success. I categorize the benefits of procrastination in three ways.

Financial, professional and the other personal. As I am always interested in financial stuff, let me start with it.

Financial:

The question now is how does Procrastination help us financially?

For instance, you are a shoe lover and you have found an excellent pair of shoes in the stores and marked as new arrival. Your impulse would ask you to go ahead and swipe the card and get that thing home. But how many times do you think that your decision of buying an electronic item, shoes, clothes, for that matter anything out of IMPULSE helped you. Did you ever felt, I should have waited a little longer and could have got this cheap or I should have thought for the second time before buying this? Or what should I do with this thing?

Yes, many a times we mess up between our Needs, Wants and Impulse. Due to this impulsive behavior, we end up buying stuff we never needed or stuff we never want or the stuff we never use or the stuff we could get for a lot lesser price than what we have spent. So next time when you go for window shopping, if you happen to like anything, which ofcourse is likely; try to putoff the idea of buying it right then (Unless and until it’s something urgent). Just note that thing and move ahead. Give the idea of buying a second thought after reaching home. Search for better deals on the net. Don’t just buy because something is on sale. Try to reason with your impulse of buying unwanted things. The chances of you not buying that item would be more than 50% or you would get that item for a lesser price. If you could control that impulse of buying at that moment, you will probably find a good deal or you will change your mind about it. This will obviously lessen the burden on your pocket.

Professional:

We now know how procrastination and controlling your impulse helped you financially. Now let’s see how this works professionally.

In this world of emails, you should always be on your toes not only to do the right things but also to not do the wrong things. I mean an email can cause much damage if not properly addressed and procrastinated at times. For instance you are part of a mail chain and someone by mistake (Many a times intentionally) pointed at you and referred that you are the reason for something and something bad. You do not have to reply to them with the first thing that comes to mind. Generally, when you are pointed for a mistake that you are not the owner of or the reason for, your EGO will wake up and act on behalf of you. This will create a mess that will take ages to get cleared. The mails your ego sent might become chains attached to your legs and stop you from climbing the ladder of your professional career.

Instead of listening to your ego, just take a moment and try to understand what the other person is saying. Try to validate their statement. Find out what made them think that you are the reason for something bad. Wait for a while and then reply. The things that you put in black and white are the things that can never be wiped or corrected. So instead of trying to mend the things; that in the first place are unnecessary to create; avoid mailing back to mails right after you read them.
How to do it:

1. Go for a walk around the block
2. Have a coffee and come back to desk
3. Indulge yourself in something other than the mail.
4. Get away from your laptop and have a chat with your friend

Personal:

Now as you know how to procrastination can help you financially and professionally, it will be easy for you to know how it will be helpful in personal life.
I will start with “You do not have to win always”. When I say this, I really mean it. Generally we forget that we are having a healthy discussion and start making our point strong and end up arguing. We end up hurting others without noticing that we really did. When you are cornered you end up saying things that flashes in your brain without even having a second thought. Which really can cause damage to the discussion and relations. So next time when you feel that things are going south, just take a step back and wait for things to sink in. Talk soft and make your point straight. Never get personal things in between discussions.

Also when you are on social network (FB, Twitter etc) make sure that you do not indulge in ego warfare. Instead wait for a while, while replying back or commenting on someone. Putting off things for a while will change the way you look at them.

So I say “Procrastinating will lead to success if used in the right way”.

Long time...

Its been long time that I couldnt post anything here... probably I would add new things in the coming two months... hope this works out...

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A letter to my PC

My dear Comp,

You r somebody i have always wanted to own. From the day i saw u in the corner of a dark airconditioned room in which 40 of us 8th class students rushed after being forcefully made to remove our footwear... It was for 10 min our noble teacher allowed us have hands on to play space station in which i always was a loser... It was from that moment i want to own one from ur family...

Finally the day has come and i owned u on 07/08/06 ( I really dont remember coz its a long association with u) on a no moon day as my mom remembers...

I assured that i will not mess up with you as i hardly know hardware and my software skills are so soft that they cannot hurt u... and also i guaranteed that people who attend to vaccinate u will be professionals. I promised u that i wont use Floppies and CDs that will make u ill and i also made my brother (who was suffering from running nose) never come by ur side so that u wont get virus attack.

In return to all these i expected u to help me play music and some CDs which i play late nights.

I thought we will spend much time together but u always want to go to the Hardware store for some or other operation... the time u spent with me is much less than that u spent with that hardware professional... I feel sad that u r cheating me and giving ur time to some one...

After all these said and done... why did u have to cheat me, booting and rebooting but never able to reach that Microsoft Windows OS... Please kindly start upon the agreed terms and conditions.

Note: On top of all these every time u leave to H/W house, my mom says u came to our house on a no moon day and its a result of it... please kindly make her understand its not because of the moon...

Yours lovingly

Conufsed... Confused as always

Never knew where to start and never knew where to head... CONFUSION It was all part and parcel of my life... Life... My life... As many made to believe, it began in the first quarter of the year when India won the World cup... and I am dragging it till now...

As any other day, had to come to office leaving todays beautiful weather behind... We dont get to see this weather often in HYD. Cloudy atmosphere, cool breeze, trees moving rhythamically with the breeze, as if the rumba dancers are performing at their best... leaving behind all these had to come to work place...

A place where all ur attention shuld be on a single thing, work, is what my work place is like... But multi-tasking is what i am famous for... Chatting, phone calls, browsing and ofcourse work as expected...

To end this on a positive note... I will leave early today to enjoy the so called a beautiful day in this monsoon season...

Until next time... bubyeee...